During my initial days of travelling, I used to ask several people (online, offline, blogs etc) if the place I want to travel to was safe. I wanted a sense of reassurance that Hey, everything is gonna be A-Okay.
And I wanted that reassurance from someone else. But despite all that reassurance, in moments of absolute distress, it was me who stood up for me in those trips. The truth isnโt that their assurances werenโt helpful. They were. But the fact is that all assurances fade away if I am not feeling okay about doing it.
Oh, I am not claiming that I am 100% self-reliant. I am dependent on my family and friends from time to time. But what Iโve realized is that only I can make myself feel OK. When I go to my friends and family with a problem, they have solutions. Some great solutions to help me cope up with my problems. But because I and my thoughts and my personality are unique those solutions may not work.
So the only way I can figure out a solution that works is by working my way inward. To constantly listen to myself. Understand what I like and what I donโt. I think the greater lesson here is this.
I need to understand that the current reality is good enough before I take deliberate steps to improve it. Even if it is not good enough, just come to terms with the state of affairs and the work to improve areas you want to.
Sometimes, I have to go places even if there is no reassurance. Itโs okay to be lost sometimes and find my way back to the shore..๐๐๐ ๐ฎ ๐ด๐ฒ๐ป๐๐น๐ฒ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐บ๐ถ๐ป๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐๐ผ ๐๐ฒ๐น๐ณ, ๐ถ๐ ๐ถ๐ ๐ ๐๐ต๐ผ ๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐๐ผ ๐๐๐ถ๐บ.
Friends and family may throw ropes, floaters and whatnot, ๐๐๐ ๐ถ๐ ๐ถ๐ ๐ ๐๐ต๐ผ ๐ป๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ฑ๐ ๐๐ผ ๐๐๐ถ๐บ.