During my initial days of travelling, I used to ask several people (online, offline, blogs etc) if the place I want to travel to was safe. I wanted a sense of reassurance that Hey, everything is gonna be A-Okay.
And I wanted that reassurance from someone else. But despite all that reassurance, in moments of absolute distress, it was me who stood up for me in those trips. The truth isn’t that their assurances weren’t helpful. They were. But the fact is that all assurances fade away if I am not feeling okay about doing it.
Oh, I am not claiming that I am 100% self-reliant. I am dependent on my family and friends from time to time. But what I’ve realized is that only I can make myself feel OK. When I go to my friends and family with a problem, they have solutions. Some great solutions to help me cope up with my problems. But because I and my thoughts and my personality are unique those solutions may not work.
So the only way I can figure out a solution that works is by working my way inward. To constantly listen to myself. Understand what I like and what I don’t. I think the greater lesson here is this.
I need to understand that the current reality is good enough before I take deliberate steps to improve it. Even if it is not good enough, just come to terms with the state of affairs and the work to improve areas you want to.
Sometimes, I have to go places even if there is no reassurance. It’s okay to be lost sometimes and find my way back to the shore..𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝗮 𝗴𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗹𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗿 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳, 𝗶𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝗜 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝘄𝗶𝗺.
Friends and family may throw ropes, floaters and whatnot, 𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝗶𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝗜 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱𝘀 𝘁𝗼 𝘀𝘄𝗶𝗺.