It was May 2019, I was off on my first trip to Kumta that I earned through my writing. I woke up in a tempo traveler with 13 other stranger-friends and looked out the window. We were around Sirsi and dense fog surrounded us. That continued for a while and we finally reached a cozy beachstay. It was an exciting trip and I enjoyed it to the core. The serene beaches, the Phyto planktons, the beach stay, it was truly a trip I’d relive over and over again. Although it lasted for a couple of days, I came back to the grind to a good job. A job where I just got promoted.
I went on so many such trips for the rest of that year. So many trips that I had to consciously slow myself down in 2020 but unfortunately it did come to a grinding halt due to COVID-19. Looking back, it was what I can now call, the good old days. A good job that paid enough, gave me enough time to deal with my random midnight thoughts.
I can’t say the same about my life anymore. For one, I now have just Sunday to explore this beautiful world. Although the job pays me better, it leaves less time for the midnight random thoughts I craved so much.
The past few months have made me understand a few things about my own life. Specifically the non-negotiable aspects of my own life. Or to put it as Wayne puts it, Non-negotiable, Unalterable Terms. You can read more about it here. A more detailed explanation from the same article, N.U.T.s are the boundaries that define you as man, those things which, if repeatedly compromised, will gradually—but assuredly—turn you into a pissed-off, resentful man who will likely blame others—especially your wife—for your unhappiness. And sad to say that am currently at the pissed-off state.
What Are Your NUTS Inju?
The past three months of my new job made me realize that my personal time is non-negotiable.
I’ve realized that the 1 hour of reading books, working out for 1 hour, writing 500 words every day, working on the crazy moonshot ideas that may not see the light of the day. All of this is my time and is non-negotiable.I can’t even begin to explain how critical this one is for bringing my A-Game to the regular job as well. It’s almost like a flywheel where the momentum from the hobbies transfers into the regular job and so on.
The time I spent at home during the lockdown made me realize that I crave for a family time more than anything. I can give up reading that exciting book I just picked up if my mom asks me to help her in the kitchen. Likewise, I like to catch up with my grandparents once in a while and listen to their age-old gossips. Heck, listening to my nephew’s banter has grown up on me.
Saturdays. For my crazy midnight thoughts, a 2 day weekend seems like the most important thing. Most of my personal works need dedicated deep work that extends for hours and having just Sunday where I cram up everything doesn’t help at all.
I have also realized that not travelling and exploring leaves me restless. This was a surprising find. But I have realized that travelling and exploring the world has become a part of me now.
So, me time, family time, traveling and a 2 day weekend (If at a regular job) are the most non-negotiable, unalterable terms of my life.
So where do we go from here?
Short answer, I don’t know. But defining the N.U.T.S will certainly help me make a better decision.
I should probably add a disclaimer now that the blog is receiving significant traffic. Many blog posts here are related to travel. However, there are few blog posts that talk about my own life. I write those blog posts as I want to unravel my own thoughts about a problem I have in life. These may or may not be unique to me. So before you take any advice to the face value, I suggest you think about my context. You can DM me on Instagram to discuss the same.
That’s all for today folks. Thank you for sticking through to the end.
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